Divorce Parties

So now you've made it through divorce. You and your spouse have finished your negotiations with each other, and the divorce decree is final or at least in the works. What's the natural thing to do? Throw a party, of course. I don't need to tell you this, because you know. The whole idea of a divorce party is that it's a rite of passage -- a way of erecting a big bright sign for yourself and your friends to say "It's over. That part of my life is behind me now." So you obviously want to wait to have your party until it really is over.

Besides, you're in no mood to party until you know what your divorce decree is going to say. So that means you wouldn't want to have a party (at least not to celebrate your divorce) until after the settlement agreement is signed. I don't think it matters as much whether the judge has actually signed your divorce decree, but it's nice to be able to show off the decree at the party, so that may be reason enough to wait. If the settlement agreement is already signed, you probably don't have too long to wait anyway.

If you've ever been a drinker, you're likely to end up getting drunk at your divorce party. Don't ask me why; you just are. So that means you want to plan your divorce party when your kids are with the ex (or someone else), when you don't have anything important you need to do the next morning, and when you have someone whose judgment you trust who will stay with you throughout the party and make sure you get home safely (preferably without anyone of the opposite sex to accompany you). People who have been through divorce are usually the best guests to invite to your divorce party. Your divorce lawyer will probably appreciate being invited but probably won't come. Most women I know invite only other women, and most men I know (who are far less likely to throw divorce parties) invite both genders. Because of the probability you're going to get stupid, you probably should avoid inviting anyone from your workplace or others whose impression of you would change if they see you in a (ahem) state. What you do at your divorce party depends on how you feel about the divorce, whom you invite, and just how impaired you get.

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